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"Grow Through What You Go Through" by Keresha James

In the book of Psalms, David writes in Chapter 139 vs 13-14. “For it was you who created my inward parts; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I will praise you because I have been fearfully and wonderfully made.”God created us in his own unique way, for his own unique purpose. Each one of us is special in our own way and we don’t need anyone’s approval. Are you here on this earth to live your life or someone else’s? Be honest with yourself when answering this question.

Do you find yourself trying to fit in areas of life where you don't belong? Think about this for a moment. Life gives us our fair trials and experiences, but it was only thrown at us to know who we are. If we check our experiences on a level, they are there to teach us life lessons. This is to make us find our strengths and weaknesses. Knowing who you are and what your calling in life is, can be rewarding. I believe that whatever situation you find yourself in, accept it and move on.

Experience and knowledge equals wisdom. Instead of blaming others for your downfall in life and finding excuses to stay in your comfort zone; you have to be willing to accept accountability and take responsibility for your actions. If we keep our eyes on the goal, we have more than what we need to fulfill our purpose.

I am a mother of 4 children. I never got the chance to graduate from Teachers College. I started but had to drop out in my final year. I was depressed and anxious at the same time. I just could not function. Life became hard with raising 3 children at the time.

My husband was the only one working at the time and his income wasn't enough to take care of us and the bills. Everything seems dark and gloomy, I felt like I was in a tunnel and I couldn’t see the light. Financially we were not stable, sometimes my husband and I could not find food to feed our children after the bills were paid. We had no one to blame, we had to take full responsibility for bad decisions we made. I accepted my reality and I decided to make a change. Not for me only, but for the sake of my family.

You see, one of two things will happen when you make a decision. If you try to do things on your own - by your own strength - you’ll end up stressed. On the other hand, when you operate and rely on your faith you’ll get pressured. The bible says, “we are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed.” (2 Corinthians 4:8-9)

I started accepting my flaws and I found the strength I need in the word of God. I seek another opportunity and believe the scripture that states, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” (Phillipians 4:13). This time I seek approval from God and the door opens for me. I was given a second chance, this time it was in nursing.

This time around, I relied on faith and that's when pressure came. In this case, pressure was not a bad thing, but good. It took me out of my comfort zone and made me see a part of me I never knew existed. Everyone has an optimum level of pressure that brings about their best performance.

The things I aim to achieve always come with pressure. Pressure helps me create a plan. On the other hand, stress occurs when I stop focusing on who is in control, God.

Faith has equipped me to handle pressure because I know I can’t do it alone. I learned to lean on God and trust that he will send the right people for my season.

God will help you in whatever situation you are in, but you have to open your mouth and speak. God will help you improve your relationship with your spouse and kids, but you have to commit to spending time with them.

God will help you pass the test, but you have to study. Let me put it in simpler terms: God will help, but it is your responsibility to do the work. In other words, “Faith without works is dead.” (James 2:26).